As a Marriage and Family Therapist Intern, one of the most
frequent complaints I hear from my clients is that they feel stressed out and hectic.
Parents come to my office after dropping their kids off at a class, between
practices, or from play groups. They are busy making their homes enriched,
wonderful places for their children to be. If their children don’t need them,
their significant other does. I have teenagers come to my office feeling like
they are under pressure, too – with schoolwork, conflict in their social
groups, or the feeling of being pulled in too many directions. Even the little
kids I see these days seem more frantic, being shuttled from activity to
activity.
I also have a BA in Recreation. I am all for hobbies,
classes, and pursuing your interests. But I also see a pattern among my clients
where they fill all the gaps in their days, without leaving time to slow down
and see what happens naturally. When you don’t leave some gaps of time, you
miss out on some of the sweeter things in life. Small miracles start escaping
you. You might stop noticing the tomato plant going from blossom to fruit in
the backyard. You might move so fast you miss the lizard scuttling out of your
way. The tiny and beautiful details of the world around you gets lost in the
rush to get out the door and into the car, to move on to the next thing, the
next group, activity, or event.
Even in the midst of a busy life, you can schedule in some
time to slow down and learn how to hone your awareness again. Art can be really
helpful in this process. Here are several art projects that you can do that
will help you slow down and take notice.
1.
Cut a small rectangle out of the center of a
piece of cardstock. Hold that piece of paper up about 8-10” from your face.
Using colored pencils, draw only what you can see through that cut-out
rectangle. Use this frame to help narrow
your focus, eliminate distractions, and take the time to notice all that goes
on in that small, compact space.
2.
Go to a favorite place in nature, such as a
park, field, or garden. Draw the outline of your hand on a piece of paper. Then
place your hand on the ground. Lifting it up, look at what fit underneath that
space, and draw it on your paper in as much detail as possible. Focus on how
amazing it is that so much detail can fit in the palm of your hand.
3.
Close your eyes and think about your favorite
place to visit. Try to imagine you are there, using all of your senses. Use
markers and paper to try to recreate it on paper, trying to get in as many
details as you can. If someone you know has been there also, enlist their help
in coming up with an even richer description, or see if they can recognize the
location based on your drawing.
4.
With a partner: choose an object, such as a
favorite mug, stuffed animal, or book. Do not tell your partner what you have
chosen. Give them crayons and paper, and carefully describe the details of the
object while they draw only what you tell them. Make sure you cannot see their
paper, and they cannot see your object. When you think you are done describing
it, you get to look at what they’ve created and see if your powers of
observation and description are finely honed or could use more practice.
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